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<blockquote data-quote="The_Wol" data-source="post: 714171" data-attributes="member: 37787"><p>I believe sports and the mentality that men aren't supposed to feel like this is a lot to blame. Throughout boxing I've been taught never to show when I'm hurting. If you get knocked down you get back up and continue, with rugby if you let a big hit show it rattled you it opens you up for more. This mentality transfers to your every day life, where you feel if you show you are hurting you will be perceived as weak or people will just do you more harm if you tell them. I'm supposed to be at Sparring training right now, but my quads and calves are still cramped up from rugby (go figure) so my usual coping method with this pain (getting hit and hitting back) is out of reach for today so I will have to find some other way to cope. </p><p></p><p>I have never been one to give up on anything, I believe that my mental strength is what keeps me going even though I woke up an hour ago and my first thought was ending it all I know that I can't, that too many people's lives would be ruined by that, so I soldier on. I avoid drinking, I eat relatively healthily. My only vice is smoking it used to help but now I find myself staring at the cigarette as it burns down thinking that represents our life here. We all start out so full of life, but as we age we slowly burn out. </p><p></p><p>I know I'll get through this pain, I've felt this before and gone through it before. I just have to figure out how I did it before and keep going.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="The_Wol, post: 714171, member: 37787"] I believe sports and the mentality that men aren't supposed to feel like this is a lot to blame. Throughout boxing I've been taught never to show when I'm hurting. If you get knocked down you get back up and continue, with rugby if you let a big hit show it rattled you it opens you up for more. This mentality transfers to your every day life, where you feel if you show you are hurting you will be perceived as weak or people will just do you more harm if you tell them. I'm supposed to be at Sparring training right now, but my quads and calves are still cramped up from rugby (go figure) so my usual coping method with this pain (getting hit and hitting back) is out of reach for today so I will have to find some other way to cope. I have never been one to give up on anything, I believe that my mental strength is what keeps me going even though I woke up an hour ago and my first thought was ending it all I know that I can't, that too many people's lives would be ruined by that, so I soldier on. I avoid drinking, I eat relatively healthily. My only vice is smoking it used to help but now I find myself staring at the cigarette as it burns down thinking that represents our life here. We all start out so full of life, but as we age we slowly burn out. I know I'll get through this pain, I've felt this before and gone through it before. I just have to figure out how I did it before and keep going. [/QUOTE]
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