yes, and i can explain to you why. Shouting fire in a cinema has a very realistic chance of physically injuring third parties. Directly.
Calling me a "******* argie" or 'third world scum" (hate crimes by the definition you posted), does not. I want people to be able to call me that. Let me say it again. I want people to have the right to tell me those things. In my face, on social media, on tv shows. I want them to have that right.
I can chose to disregard or why not, not even listen at all. The line in the sand is clear and practical: when you go from words to actions.
If i'm being honest, i have an issue, a big one, with your use of the term "abuse". Have you ever talked to abused kids or women? I have. They all, 100%, had no options. They couldn't disregard, look the other way or chose not to listen. Your use diminishes the value of the term. It trivializes it. It puts them in the same bag as people who felt offended by a word.
Verbal abuse... **** that. I'd much rather stick to the old dictionary definition of the term: physical maltreatment (merriam webster). That's why we ended up with a generation of people who label everything they find inconvenient as violence: political violence when someone votes against their preferences, verbal violence when they dislike what other people say, economic violence when they cant buy what they wont (but still have enough money for 2k's worth of tattoos!). Anything anyone does that they dislike? Violence.
No.
But in the spirit of candidness, if you give me a specific example i am more than happy to answer on whether i'd be fine with it or not. And why.